Why is it so hard to accept compliments from someone? Why is it so hard to say thank you? Why is it so hard to believe someone really is that into you? Why must we make excuses for everything? Why must we insult ourselves?
These are all questions I ask myself daily. I am as guilty as the next person. I am a self-loathing person who can’t just take a compliment. I stand in front of the mirror and pick apart my body. I stand there and make excuses about the way I look. I stand there in disgust. I stand there thinking I wished I looked different. But that is so wrong of me to do. It is detrimental to my self-worth, my mind, and my faith. God made me just the way I am. He wants us to take care of our beautiful bodies. He doesn’t just want our minds clean, He wants our bodies to be as well. So the past few months I have started to make a change.
Ladies, back fat, a few dimples in your butt, and a little extra love handle on the side is not the end of the world. If you are super skinny and don’t have boobs, then flaunt what you do have. If you have the perfect body, well, just keep on being perfect. LOVE THY SELF. Next time you stand in front of the mirror, think of all the compliments you have received. Instead of shamming your body, look at it and say 3 compliments to it. No, you are not a selfish person for doing this.
PERSONAL STORY ALERT: Britton is my fiancé. We have been dating 4 years and this year is the first year I have accepted his nice comments and just said thank you. It feels so good to trust that someone truly loves you and thinks you are the best. He tells me I am the most beautiful person he has ever seen. He tells me I have a beautiful body and he can’t believe it, but somehow I get prettier every day. I use to get mad at him and tell him to shush. But after years of hearing Britton say these things, I believe he truly means the things he says to me. Every man might not find me desirable but I only need one to. I only need Britton to believe I am that one person who is more beautiful than the rest. Of course I don’t think I am a perfect person, but I do believe in his eyes, I am perfect for him. And that’s all I really need.
Listen here, I have fat, I have stretch marks, I weigh more than the average bear, and I have short stalky legs. But you know what else I have? I have a beautiful smile, a healthy body, and a heart of gold. The rest will fall into place. Ladies, you are more than a number on a scale. You are more than what society tells you. You are more than the mean comments you say to yourself. You are one of a kind, you are beautiful in more than one way, and you are a woman of God. There is no greater pleasure than knowing exactly who you are supposed to be and accepting it.
The number one reason I cannot take a compliment is because I don’t know how you accept them. If I say thank you, does the other person think I’m full of myself? Do I have to compliment them now? If I downplay their compliment does that make me a better person? I know these are questions that go through every girls mind. Maybe even a man or two. How do you except that compliment you just received? Just say thank you. The person giving you the compliment went out of their way to say something nice to you. Do not shut them down or downplay their niceness.
This all being said, I do believe you should have a healthy body. I do not condemn others for their weight, but I do condemn bad decisions. Do not take your body for granted. Do not take self-worth quotes and twist them into excuses for gaining a few pounds. That is not what I’m talking about. Love your HEALTHY BODY. If you do not have a healthy body, then love it by taking care of it. You do not need to loos 50lbs to do that. Just eat right and keep your mind clean of those mean and self-destroying thoughts. Exercise, you do not have to exercise every day. Lord knows I don’t. But I do exercise when I’m starting to feel those harsh feelings about myself. You are all beautiful. The super skinny girls, the thick girls, the pear shaped girls, the body builders, and everyone in-between.
Be you. Be healthy. Be more than a number.