I was reading an article today by Gary Thomas, and the title was God Didn’t Tell You To Marry Your Spouse. At first I thought, yeah right, Britton is my soulmate. But as I kept reading I realized he is not. The article went on to talk about how we chose our spouse. That God has not made a specific person for you. This came as a surprise because, till today I thought my husband had been perfectly shaped for me. The author used Proverbs 31, 1 Corinthians 7, and Matthew 19:12 as references. I reread those scriptures in the bible and started to have a new outlook on my marriage. God gives us a choice to marry in 1 Corinthians 7 where he says you can choose to be single or to marry.
I think out of the billions of people on earth I could probably find a few I would marry. But that being said out of the billions of people I chose one. I chose Britton to be my commitment. With commitment comes responsibility. It is my responsibility to make sure he is in good health, happy and serving the Lord. Just as it is his responsibility to lead me, make sure I am healthy, serving the Lord, and happy. Marriage is committing to choose that person every single day for the rest of your life. It is a constant choice that has to be made. So I continue to say, my husband is not my soul mate. But he is the best decision I have ever made, and will continue to make. Marriage is not perfect and neither are we. As the article says, if you are wondering how to find a good mate, then look to the bible. (EX: Proverbs 31:10-31) Men, find a woman full of kindness. Women, find a man who will not only lead you, but will hold your hand through life. Marriage was made as a one way street. Treat it with respect. God may not have chosen that person for you, but he will guide your marriage together. So pray together, enjoy life together, and live every moment like it’s your last. Marriage is something worth fighting for. This is the life you chose for yourself, enjoy it! I have chosen Britton above all others, I left my family to cleave to him, and I will continue to choose that path. He may not be my soulmate, but he is mine.
I hope you find someone who makes you truly happy, a person who makes you better, and someone you can commit too every day.